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Death Doula/Death Ceremony
The word “doula” comes from the Greek word meaning “woman who serves,” Brith Doulas are mostly women due to their first-hand experience on the subject. Though the majority of people associate doula with birth and therefore women, there are men that work in the field.
As old as the concept of a Birth doula there has also been Death "doulas". I don't believe the importance of their role was fully understood and therefore fell by the wayside.
I personally believe the lack of properly assisting people passing leads to a lot of unresolved trauma and ancestor work that is asking to be healed in the present day. The dense heavy energy that is weighing people down these days, cause by spirits still lingering. And why ancestor work has also become a thing.
Unlike hospice workers, doulas do not work with medical issues. My focus is on supporting my clients (the person facing their final journey), emotionally, physically, spiritually, and practically, stepping in whenever needed to ensure their comfort and dignity.
Whether it is a few days before someone's passing, sitting vigil with them in their last hours, giving hand massages, keeping them company, or making snacks. It could be months or even years earlier, after someone receives a terminal diagnosis, listening to their life stories or helping them craft autobiographies, and planning a funeral.
At our time of passing finding peace in ourselves can completely change the experience for ourselves and our loved ones.
Because the end-of-life process is so powerful I also offer death ceremonies. It can be beneficial to experience a death ceremony as a way to meet death on our terms, a way to start building that relationship.
It can be a kind of rest, a way to officially put an end to the old and step into the new. This can help you go deeper or get focused heading into or coming out of a deep spiritual shift and/or a transitional time in your life.
The need for deep personal work/healing and better end-of-life care has rebirthed the skill of assisting people during their transition or taking them through a deep transition now under the title of death doula.
I help people create their own relationship with death and the dying process. We can also create a place for honoring a life that either no longer serves or a life that is no longer with us in form but will forever be with us in spirit.
Prices range from $25 an hour on up, although most of my work in this field is voluntary when working with someone preparing for their passing. I think this is a very important life process and it can help give new meaning to the grieving process and life while helping individuals feel complete and at peace as they head on to what awaits them in the hereafter.
Rituals are tools that give us the ability to call in assistance from the unseen world. Our task is to seize and shape this request consciously, deliberately, and joyfully. Rituals have their roots in many sacred practices.
A ritual is a sequence of activities involving gestures, words, and objects, performed in a sequestered place and according to a set sequence. Rituals may be prescribed by the traditions of a community, and/or family.
The purpose of the ritual is to draw us powerfully and quickly deep into sacred space. With a clear intention, our senses, movements, feelings, visualization to focus and create purpose.
The function of ritual in a community is to provide the proper guides for action in the realm of the sacred as well as supplying a bridge for passing into the realm of the profane, to call in the mythic.
A Ceremony is usually performed to mark a rite of passage such as Birth, Coming of Age, Marriage, and Death. Therefore ceremonies hold an extremely important place in our lives, marking life's essential moments.
Ceremonies are an expression of gratitude and/or acknowledgment of the unseen world. A way to acknowledge we aren't doing this alone and are grateful for all the support.