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Due to unwanted encounters, traumas, and abuse, the majority of people in the world do not live in our bodies. But when we negate/bypass our bodies for the comfort of our minds we can lose touch with our true selves, intuition, and self-awareness.
To be a whole healthy human beings, we would ideally live in and from our bodies, not our heads. Our bodies allow us to be in and too interact with the world around us. Our true wisdom dwells deep within us, in our blood, bones, and DNA, and interacts with us through our emotions, Gut, heart, and intuition.
Sex is vital to the human experience, and spirituality, it is life force, the divine spark that created us all. But like every self-empowering belief, study or practice it has been demonized by the powers that be and want to stay in control.
For a fully empowered human is a truly free human. they are not above or below they just are. Freely giving and receiving in harmony with everyone and things around them.
But that can only happen if we learn to fully embrace ourselves and fully embody this mortal coil. Recognizing it for the temple that it is, sex and all.
If you want to know how much you really love yourself? Just look at how you let the people around you treat you. Also, notice how you treat the people around you. Do you judge them harshly? If so you are more than likely judging yourself even harder. (See shadow work)
All Eastern philosophies had sacred texts on various sexual practices because they knew how important sexuality is to a human's well-rounded health, our Minds, bodies, and souls, a fully empowered human.
In the decades I have worked with people, in all kinds of stages of life and situations, I have seen a lot when it comes to sex, sexuality, and gender.
If there is one thing this has shown me is the desperate need for a safe place to talk, learn and at times even practice "Safe Sex" and I mean safe as in every sense of the word. Mentally, emotionally and physically safe and in that order.
Have you ever really dived into what sex means to you? If you haven't how would you know exactly what you are looking for in a partner or relationship?
Are you blindsided by how strong your emotional attachment is when you get sexually involved with someone you did even think you were that interested in? Or do you have a hard time enjoying sex? Do you arrive too soon or not at all?
It is really important to be able to talk about these things and to start having a healthy conversation around sex to be able to heal and embrace ourselves fully.
I have always believed if you can't talk about sex, especially with your partner your experiences will be lacking. Good, deep nurturing sex is a mind, body, and soul connection, it's not just for reproduction.
If you don't know what you want or how to talk about it, you are already missing key components to a healthy sex life. If you're in your head the whole time, and can't drop into your body, then your connection with your partner it will be fleeting even if it is good. God is in everyone and everything we connect to, not being able to fully connect with the person you are with cuts you're the spiritual connection in sex.
Not to mention all these things inhibit our self-awareness in all areas of our lives, especially where we need it the most. If you don't know yourself how could anyone else get to know you?
If you don't know the reasons behind your what, why, when, or how, how can anyone else trust your motive? No one can know these things for you, it is a big part of being, you have to know so you can be clear about what you are asking for, and what your needs are. Mind-reading and guessing games are all recipes for disaster.
Sex is natural and if we could only be raised as such, without the condemnation and the shame that tends to go along with the topic. We probably wouldn't be dealing with all the sexual violence and just plain bad sex out there.
Or have a booming porn business that is based on violence, degradation, and lack of mutual respect that is fueling the rape culture. Not to mention feeding the misogynistic narrative that perpetuates bad sex, violence against women, and the lack of equality and personal ownership women still face over their bodies, It's all connected.
When you look at all of this it is born out of pure ignorance and lack of education. I don't mean what we learn at school, but just our inability to have a healthy conversation about it within our family units. Sex is a major part of life and needs to be taught and talked about like another life experience, like driving.
Now is not the time to be shy, especially when it comes to kids, there are exposed to way too much these days. But if we take the fear out of it, we can take the opportunities handed to us and turn hard conversations into valuable conversations and life lessons.